Some people love going to the market but hate shopping for home necessities.  Some don’t mind doing laundry and others would rather die.  Some prefer shopping early in the day, others at night.  Some, like us, prefer to do nearly all shopping together.  Find what works for you and use that system.  If the women are always going to the market and the man to the home improvement center, don’t get all worked up because you’re conforming to clichés of gender.  It’s okay if what comes naturally happens to line up with certain traditional roles.  And it’s just as fine if the roles are reversed or mixed.  It’s never been important and it isn’t now.

At various times in the course of the history of our country, the children of a multitude of different peoples have been targeted for discrimination.  We could list among the put-upon the Irish child, the African, the Vietnamese, the Jewish, the Hispanic, and the Catholic and we’ll still have barely nicked the surface of the matter.  Every racist, bigot, misogynist, and plain ol’ fucking idiot has had their reasons for hating whatever type of people they’ve feared.  And they’ve hated the children of that people because the youngest among them act as a reminder that they’ll be around for some time to come, multiplying and stealing from them the world the haters have come to recognize.  The children of gay men and lesbians are the newest target, and the progeny of the polyamorous will follow.  All one can do is not give in to the idiots, no matter how high or low a position they hold, for all they have to offer is hate.  A loved child is a glorious creation, and we will not refrain from giving love because of idiots who claim that love from certain sources is unacceptable.  It’s these people, the idiots of principle, who seem of all the people in our society the least familiar with love.

The economics of home and family are often difficult.  All the better then if three are providing for a family unit rather than two, or if two act as breadwinners while a third cares for the children.  The pooling of money and resources can provide not only practical advantages but soul-satisfying ones as well. If one partner is staying with the children, the children are kept with the family and need not be dropped off at daycare.  If more partners are working for the family, more money can be earned or less hours worked.  The family can thrive in its wallet and its heart.

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