The Ordinary Extraordinary
from Chapter 1 - Introduction
The Ordinary Extraordinary
from Chapter 1 - Introduction
In 1997, we met, fell in love, and moved in together. In 1999, we opened up to the option of a committed three-person relationship: ourselves and a woman, a triad. (Alan is straight and Anna is bisexual.) In 2001, our physical experience at threesomes with women began. In 2003, we began having continuing relationships with women. Perhaps someday we’ll have found that one girl for us. Perhaps not. Either way, whether we continue as a couple or become a triad, we’re happy.
Let’s be clear from the start: we have pursued women for sexual pleasure, but our higher goal, the goal that far supersedes fleeting physical satisfaction, is to find a mate for ourselves, someone with whom we can happily spend an afternoon, a year, a lifetime. We’re not swingers who find just any shuffling of sexual partners to our liking. We do not enjoy nameless sex or quick hook-ups. We are discerning about our sexual partners, as any person looking for Mr. or Ms. Right might be.