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12 Questions People in Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick of Hearing
A few days ago, Brittany Wong published a piece on HuffPost: “12 Questions People in Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick of Hearing.” It begins, “People who practice polyamory understand the world’s curiosity: loving more than one person at one time isn’t entirely conventional. Most people have a lot of questions about what it’s like. Still, there are more tactful ways to learn about someone’s personal life, especially if you’re asking questions about what happens in the bedroom.” And the twelve annoying, misguided questions?
1. Isn’t that sort of like cheating?
2. How do you do it? I’m way too in love to do that.
3. Who’s your primary or favorite partner?
4. What happens if…? (Examples given include “What would happen if your boyfriends started to hate each other?” and “What if someone wanted to move?”)
5. Don’t you get jealous of each other’s relationships?
6. Are you concerned about STIs?
7. How do you plan to settle down one day and have kids?
8. What does your family think?
9. Do you have orgies?
10. Once you find the right person, you’ll settle down, right?
11. What do you tell the kids?
12. What if your partner falls in love with someone else?
Each question is answered by a different poly person, many of them of some note. (Zaeli Kane, Tikva Wolf, KamalaDevi McClure, Josephine Kearns, and Dedeker Winston are among them.)
The article isn’t without its flaws, and some of the questions are far more understandable—and forgivable—than others, but still the article is worth a look. It’s HERE.
Saturday, April 28, 2018